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Date Connection Online Dating

Maybe you don’t care about what the experts think and just want the skinny from people off the street. Well, we have that too. Take a gander at the on-the-street interviews and explore the textual explanations as well – they are compiled from various online psychology forums.

Undying Hope and Optimism
- If nothing else it speaks of the undying hope and optimism of the human spirit. Hey that chick I saw on the number nine bus might really have noticed me too and she might write back and we might go out and we could....etc.
- The chances are sooooooooooooooooooo slim, but many do it, so its says that we believe in the hope of a special connection (or something) in the face of massive odds against it happening. I guess that ain't a bad thing. Humans, they just won't quit.
o Because we are hopeless romantics. Maybe, just maybe, they might see it. If they do, then this must be fate.
A Safe Place to Reach out and Take a Risk
- Yes, Missed Connections is a safe haven. Anonymity feels safe. Because a
person doesn't take dating risks doesn't mean they don't take risks in other
areas of their lives.
- The situation can sometimes be a little awkward to strike a conversation with the person in question (somewhat crowded el train, presence of friends (in my case)), but if I feel like we look at and notice each other often enough, and the person seems intriguing, I figure MC is a last resort.

Because we’re Shy and Timid
- I think you would find a regular pattern of people with some issues or hang-ups around inferiority, perhaps low self esteem, socially awkward or antisocial to socially mal adjusted or just severely shy.
- There seems a theme among a majority of posts expressing how shy the person is and how they just couldn't find the words in the situation to express their interests. Shyness may also be anxiety, fear of rejection/humiliation if they expressed themselves to another only to discover the other person did not feel the same way.
- Because we are afraid to approach people right there at the spot and then they regret it. So they post it in those sections knowing perfectly well that that person will most likely never read it. So again, playing it safe.
Greater Social Function: Therapy & Connection
- It's like a prayer request pool. Many spiritual groups post anonymous prayer request lists to encourage individuals to pray for one another. In a similar way, missed connections gives people an opportunity to take action to either make up for lack of action in a situation or to express something deeper that they need to say but can’t find the words or opportune moment at the time they felt the impulse.
- I think this may serve to enable a missed connection poster to let go finally of some obsession over what they shoulda, woulda, coulda done or said and serves also as a safe place to reflect and express on modifying behavior in the future. Ultimately I think that missed connections posts serve as a place to secretly and safely explore possible alternatives to behaviors people may be discovering are undesirable patterns they wish to change.